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By Yakeia Fullenwinder Posted: February 4, 2025

You’ve officially found the space where healing meets real talk.

This blog isn’t just another collection of self-help blurbs or vague inspiration. At Y-Therapy Counseling and Consulting, we believe in creating spaces where healing is raw, relatable, and rooted in real life. This blog will be your go-to corner for insights on relationships, mental wellness, attachment styles, trauma recovery, and everything in between—written with heart, humor, and the truth you didn’t know you needed.

Whether you're a client, a fellow therapist, or someone quietly scrolling for that one post that hits different—you're welcome here.

This is just the beginning. Come back often. Bring a friend. Let’s unpack, unlearn, and rebuild—together.

Let’s Heal It.

When Love Feels Like a Job: Signs of Relationship Burnout

By Yakeia Fullenwinder Posted: 04/07/2025

You ever look at your partner and think, “I love you… but I’m tired”?

Not tired like we didn’t get enough sleep, but tired like this relationship feels like another full-time job—and I already have one of those. That, my friend, might be relationship burnout, and it’s more common than you think.

We don’t talk about it enough because we assume that if love is real, it should be easy. But let’s be honest—real love takes work. Unrealistic love expectations? Those will burn you out every time.

Here are a few signs you might be experiencing relationship burnout:

 1. You feel emotionally drained after every interaction.

Spoons represent emotional nurturers in my Love Utensils framework. But even spoons have limits. If you’re constantly pouring and not being poured into, exhaustion is inevitable.

 2. Small issues feel like major battles.

If you’ve become a Knife—cutting with your words, guarded, or sharp with your partner—it may be a defense mechanism masking burnout. You’re not "mean"—you’re likely just depleted.

 3. You avoid quality time like it’s another chore.

Forks tend to be busy, high-functioning, and independent. But if spending time together starts feeling like a box to check instead of something to enjoy, your connection needs nourishment.

 4. You miss you.

Sometimes, we lose ourselves while trying to love someone else. If you don’t recognize the version of yourself showing up in this relationship, it’s time to check in, not check out.

So, What Can You Do?

• Talk about it—Burnout thrives in silence. Open up a conversation with your partner using the Gottman gentle startup: “I feel ___ about ___ and I need ___.”

• Prioritize self-care—You can’t water a relationship from an empty well. Get back to YOU.

• Reconnect with your “why”—Why did you choose this person in the first place? Is that reason still valid today?

• Consider therapy—Sometimes a neutral space is the only place you both feel seen and safe. That’s where I come in.

Burnout doesn’t mean the love is gone—it means the rhythm is off. Let’s work together to find your beat again.

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